True wealth

I took some time out recently to go and sit atop the beautiful sandstone rocks at Eridge, because my intuition gave me the hit to do so. Sitting on this cliff of sandstone, surrounded by trees, birdsong and the strong whiff of this most beautiful tree in blossom I was overcome with a sense of immense relief. Why? Because in 2009 I gave up working full time to pursue my dream of a better quality of life where mydreams and passions were honoured, not someone elses, and here I was five years later still doing just that. I’ll admit, I’d actually gone to get away from the office to think more clearly about how I could connect to more clients, but instead found myself realising I was exactly where I needed to be, that everything was on track and I was doing exactly what I wanted to do at this point in time. The analogy of “getting away from it all”, was perfect. Apart from a couple of dog walkers I was completely alone, and as an emotional empath I need to be alone to connect in to me. I, like so many people, find it so easy to put everyone else first and get caught up in everyone elses thinking. My head will go something like this… I should be this, I should do that, I should blah blah blah. Like the traffic that was whizzing down the nearby A26, it can be endless!! So here I am on the top of these rocks and in this subliminal moment, I realised that having time to slow down, be at peace, be at one with nature to recharge the batteries is exactly what I wanted. It is my definition of being wealthy. This is not a financial wealth, but a wealth of being free and being able to honour my intuition.

Take time to smell the elderflowers… What worked so well, was I had listened to myself. I had got the hit this was something I needed to do and I had acted on it. I didn’t know why, I didn’t know what outcome it would give, I just went in good faith this was important and subsequently discovered it was. I took a moment to think what a contrast a life locked up in our minds is like. As I was listening to the traffic whizzing down the road I wondered how much of life were they experiencing, or like the scenery around them, how much was passing them by? Those individuals may earn a lot more than I do or get a lot further up the material possessions scale, but if that was me behaving that way what cost would that be to me and what would be the quality of my experience? I didn’t need to answer, I knew I was far more wealthy as I was… Wishing you a joyous June and many moments of wealthy peace for yourself. Becci xx

Why “not doing” is the solution!

Wow! After a beautiful evening meditating with friends led by a very special and wise soul and then returning home and just hanging out with four very calm equine souls peacefully enjoying their evening grass, I just had the most exhausting experience.

I made my way to a certain, well known social media site and as I flicked through there were lots of articles and posts relating to people what they can “do” and what they can “do for you” and how they can solve all your problems if you just “do what they tell you to do.” It felt pretty aggressive and in your face too. After all that meditation and wonderful experience with the horses it was like – phewie – how exhausting!?!

So many people (myself included once and sometimes still) think the solution to our problems comes from doing, from mustering up energy, putting up a fight and bulldozing your way through. Or maybe the technique is negotiation, or it is this angle, or it is that – whatever it is, I am sure you can find yourself a “guru” that will “solve” it for you.

If the purely “doing” technique worked – and if it is as effective as these super-confident people promise – I’m pretty sure we’d have fixed all our problems by now – because they make it sound so easy right? What they don’t tell you is that as soon as you have fixed that problem, another one will come up and you’ll feel compelled to battle your way through that one too, and then another and then another and so on – before you can reach – well what? Success? Financial stability? Recognition? Acclaim? Often these “super guru’s” don’t say!

The truth is, they are often locked in themselves to a perpetual cycle of problem – fix – problem – fix – problem and they are just selling your their own delusion (trust me – I work in the industry – this really happens). Well all I can say is they must have a lot more energy than me, because I couldn’t do it.

I strongly suspect that our solutions actually come from “not-doing”. By that I mean not resisting, not pushing away and not trying to “fix”, but allowing, being present and aware of and allowing the things to happen, happen and allow them too to just go away.

Surely not you say?

No-thing is for-ever and with all things in life, things will come and go – including us and our time on this planet.

Instead I suggest you reconnect to the “not-doing” part of yourself, and maybe just maybe don’t even try to fix that “problem” – maybe just let it be. From that you may well find yourself drawn to a particular solution one way or another – but this time it has come from the quiet infinite space inside of you rather than from a “guru” that is promising to “fix” you. You are not broken, you never were. What you are going through is what you are going through right now – nothing less, nothing more – you are moving through it whether you want to or not.

Save your energy I say. Inspired action doesn’t feel like “doing” at all – it is be-ing. May I suggest that all your solutions come from being, accepting and allowing. Be-ing compassionate; be-ing kind; be-ing thoughtful; be-ing loving; be-ing honest; be-ing fair; be-ing courageous. Notice how different the energy for those kind of things are? For me they are much more attractive and grounded.

Don’t take my word for it though – try this for yourself. Tell me, what are your experiences? I know what I will be putting my focus and attention on more from now on.