You are response-able

One of the biggest threats to us living a fulfilling and loving life is forgetting how brilliant, capable and powerful we are.

When we play small and believe our problems are bigger than us, we disconnect from our light and power within.

This inner light prevails, irrespective to our relationship to it, always waiting for us to reconnect and reclaim our true abilities.

It is our mind that limits our belief in our abilities. Perhaps we were told we were useless as a child, or the people around us were disconnected to their inner light, teaching us to do the same.

It takes great courage to connect to our inner light, as often many repressed emotions can come up when you do.

This is why it is important to work with someone else, so they can help you navigate unchartered waters. A counsellor, mentor or guide will hold a space in which you can take your first steps into the unknown, knowing there is someone there to hold out a hand to steady you or encourage you back up if you fall.

It is however, at the end of the day, our journey to make. We are response-able, no matter how harsh our lives have been. There is always more good in the world than there is bad. There is always more love than not. The invitation is to accept that reality and embrace the growth we are capable of, irrespective of our fears, rather than retract ourselves and run away from what is hard. One of the biggest threats to us living a fulfilling and loving life is forgetting how brilliant, capable and powerful we are.

 

 

If you would like to find out more about what help and guidance is available to discover your potential, visit www.MindDetoxTunbridgeWells.co.uk or call Becci on +44 (0)1892 853518.

Why does Mind Detox work?

Mind Detox is a personal transformation tool that helps you uncover and release the blocks within that result in poor health, difficult relationships, low self-esteem, financial difficulties.
In all instances where life is difficult, it is not the presence of a problem that is the issue, but instead the absence of health, flow, freedom, a bigger perspective, trust, happiness and peace.
When we experience a difficult situation, and the experience of that isn’t fully experienced and made whole again (i.e. healed), we can be stuck with an unfinished experience. Left over time this can result in imbalanced body function such as:
– digestive issues such as irritable bowl, constipation, gall stones
– persistent pains such as headaches and migraines, joint pain and back pain
– low energy, low immune system or persistent mental trauma
– inability to speak, hear or think clearly
– an aversion to particular experiences such as flying, spiders or a particular location
– difficult and strained relationships, a lack of trust in relationships or a need to be in control
– financial issues around worth, overspending, being miserly or gambling
 
One of the areas I have worked with is food addictions. Food addiction can be mild, such as always wanting a coffee when you go out or having a favourite ice cream, to very severe where your entire day is scheduled around your particular food addiction to the point where you feel that you cannot function without it and it impacts on health, wealth and relationships.
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Food is one of many things that people use to numb out a difficult emotion. It works because food has an impact on the biochemistry of our body. A product such as chocolate triggers the brain to release endorphins – hormones that cause you to experience a pleasant high feeling, rather like being in love. Theobromine and phenylethylamine in cocoa are also thought to affect your levels of serotonin, which can boost your mood and ease depression whilst sugar increases your levels of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that helps control the brain’s reward and pleasure centers. Another example is alcohol. Alcohol impacts the Central Nervous System by slowing it down, something that might be attractive to someone that is having a lot of thoughts that is making them feel a lot of stress yes?
The issues with either eating more chocolate or alcohol that we need is that it puts our body out of balance by increasing our calorie consumption, resulting in weight gain, it affects and interferes with our body processes and doesn’t address the underlying problem, meaning it requires persistent administration to get the desired numbing affect.
Mind Detox helps a person do many things, but the two mains one are – identify the emotion behind the problem, and the reason for that emotion to exist.
With the Mind Detox Method, we elicit what emotion has become stuck and not yet fully experienced, and with the help of a therapist, we are able to put our conscious awareness on it, and start to heal what is problematic for us letting it go and be free for good.

Conscious awareness

Conscious awareness is a wonderful thing, and with the help of some great questions, you are able to fully experience and justify why it would be better to let this problem go and have a more healthy relationship with life than remain stuck.
I know from first hand experience, what difficult experiences could lead to choosing to numb ourselves out with alcohol and sugary foods after my dear horse and best friend of 17 years passed away earlier this year. The evening of that day I found myself in a supermarket a lot shaken up, discombobulated and quite raw. If it had not been for the incredible support and love from the people around me, I would have quite likely seen food and alcohol as a way to connect to something that helped me cope and manage with the experience I was going through.
A Mind Detox therefore offers a dual benefit; the love, guidance and support of a therapist, and the chance to unearth and heal the difficult emotion that drives behaviours such as food addiction.
This may take a few sessions, as sometimes compound experiences over a period of time creates a cluster of emotions that we have turned to food to solve. For that reason, I would always recommend a person starts with a series of 3 sessions, and keeps going till they know they have cleared all of their food addictions – with a view to returning if after a period of time if their addiction comes back because that shows something new to be healed has come up.
If you would like to know more about Mind Detox, book an Intro Session or sign up to a course of 3 sessions to start your journey to a healthier life please visit: www.MindDetoxTunbridgeWells.co.uk and start your journey to a happier and free-er you.

20150522 Barbara Yeo Photography Becci Harvey-14 lrBecci Godfrey is a Mind Detox practitioner and trainerReiki Master and Teacher and Equine Assisted Learning Facilitator. From her base in Mark Cross, East Sussex she helps hundreds of people locally and all over the world overcome their life, emotional and health challenges to fulfil their potential.

To find out more, or find out what up and coming courses are available you can visit Becci’s professional profile here or follow Mind Detox Tunbridge Wells on Facebook.

Breakthrough Day special offer

Come 1st September 2016, I will be putting up my prices for my Breakthrough Days to reflect my expanding knowledge and the results I get.

Breakthrough Days are a great opportunity to make use of all my expertise in one concentrated day of powerful life changing experiences.

SummerhouseSo that is access to all my Reiki, Meditation, Mind Detox and Horse Assisted Education knowledge to direct at a challenge of your choice so you can turn your life around in a short space of time!

In these are powerful days you relax into your true essence, re-connect to your inner wisdom, let go of what is holding you back and develop the skills to move you forwards.

People use them to overcome difficult situations like a recent redundancy, divorce, getting back to work after a period of ill health or to overcome a block so that they can honour their truth and do the work they were put on this earth to do or just enjoy life again!

Together we create bespoke day from all my treatment options, coupled with a healthy lunch in a beautiful location. To sum it up a client shared their experience by saying:

“I spent a wonderful day with Becci and her horses Toby, Murphy and Squirrel. A day of contemplation, focusing on some issues that I had experienced in my life which I had found difficult to comes to terms with in the past and a very recent stressful work related situation. I found Becci to be incredibly understanding, thoughtful, patient and she really listened to what I wanted to achieve from the day. She built up an understanding early on as to the issues I wanted to address and then tailored the day to meet my needs. We did a meditation session, Reiki and a Mind Detox and then spent time with the horses. I found working with the horses incredibly helpful in the process of working through my issues and allowed me an opportunity to focus my mind on future aims and goals. I found the entire day to be incredibly positive and it gave me a real sense of happiness and well-being.

It was an experience I will carry with me and I thoroughly recommend it to anyone wishing to tackle problems they may have faced with a view to effect a positive future.”

So for a limited time only, I’ve chosen to freeze my prices for all bookings taken in July and claimed by the end of August at £450. That is 10% cheaper than they will be from 1st September 2016 onwards.

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To make use of this deal, complete the contact form below by the 31st July 2016 telling me why you’d like to Breakthrough and let’s schedule a time for you to start creating the future you want!

Healing from complex PTSD

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PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), can affect anyone, and it doesn’t have to be from big things like being in a war torn country or experiencing physical abuse.
For some, PTSD happens as a result of not having your needs listened to, bereavement of a close family pet, feeling like you are under pressure to perform well at school and in exams, not fitting in your community (particularly when you are small), or being subtly bullied at work or at home.
When an event has been more stressful that you’ve had support to deal with, the chances are you’ll be left with an unresolved amount of trauma – resulting in PTSD.
Talking about, and resolving the experiences behind what has been difficult for you is an extraordinarily liberating experience. Being heard, FULLY heard, re-engages our ability to trust and have confidence in life and our Selves again.
Each of us has our own journey, but in my 5 years as a practitioner I have seen people start new relationships, return back to work, open up to family and partners about their experiences, let go of anger, hurt and sadness and make brave choices to start new ventures that would have been previously impossible.

Brain plasticity

This is because the brain is very plastic, and it is never what happened that is a problem for you, but WHY it was a problem for you. Seeing as feelings are sustained by stuck, unaddressed emotions, sometimes fuelled by inaccurate beliefs – both unearthing those inaccurate beliefs and putting our consciousness on the emotion we keep re-experiencing, we are able to shift and transmute our experiences to something new, and experience something new.
By telling the body, the event is over, we are safe now, the parasympathetic nervous system is able to re-engage, bring down our levels of anxiety and enable us to re-engage in the present moment. This is what enables us to take on new challenges, and start to enjoy new experiences.
If you, or someone you know is experiencing complex PTSD, it may be that Mind Detox can help.
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Mind Detox aims to find and resolve why a particular event was a problem for you. By getting very clear on what is specifically a problem for you, you start to unravel the thought processes that produce the symptoms of PTSD. We then resolve each one, looking at what enables you to let go of this difficult experience? It is this powerful antidote learning that enables your body to return to a resting state of peace. It doesn’t stop the event from being an awful or a horrible experience that you would never wish on anyone, it simply changes your relationship to it, so you can now experience peace and move on.
And isn’t that all any one wants, peace? By taking on, what is difficult for you, you take the whole world one step closer to it.

20150522 Barbara Yeo Photography Becci Harvey-14 lrBecci Godfrey is a Mind Detox practitioner and trainerMaster Reiki Teacher and Equine Assisted Learning Facilitator. From her base in Mark Cross, East Sussex she helps hundreds of people locally and all over the world overcome their life, emotional and health challenges to fulfil their potential.

To find out more, or find out what up and coming courses are available you can visit Becci’s professional profile here or follow Mind Detox Tunbridge Wells on Facebook.

The story behind the story – why you are really ill or suffering

I had a client contact me today, asking my view on a particular treatment. I am not a treatment expert, nor will I ever be, but really, that wasn’t what the email was about.

See this person, wasn’t really concerned about the treatment they had signed up to, more that the situation had brought up an experience of uncomfortable feelings and truthfully, that is what they wanted help with.

This is where I find my Mind Detox training to be excellent. I have been lovingly trained to look for the story behind the story, and for the blindspot in my clients perspectives.

This is where our discomfort, pain and illness comes from – the resistance to what is. To add to it, this is often fuelled by years of the same resistant behaviour and the build up of stress and emotions that goes with a period of unresolved experiences.

The resistance to what is, is behind all our greatest problems. Sometimes this is a resistance to listening and acknowledging our own inner voice, other times it is a resistance to the idea others are doing the best they can with the resources they have, or it might be a resistance to our life path and they way things are going for us.

Control the controllables

Contrary to how some may have you believe, it is my experience there are some thing you can’t change in life. It is those things we are invited to grow to become accepting and compassionate of, whilst making changes in the areas we can.

We might not be able to change the race, gender, economic situation or family we are born into, but we can change our relationship to it.

This doesn’t mean we are victims of our circumstances – far from it. In my experience, our difficult experiences are opportunities for growth. How often have you protested at not wanting to do something because it was difficult only to get the greatest pleasure from accomplishing it after?

When you consciously realise life isn’t there to trip you up and be difficult, you start to experience a thrilling and challenging journey with purpose and passion and with many that will support and cheer you along the way. And to me, that is my definition of freedom.

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20150522 Barbara Yeo Photography Becci Harvey-14 lrBecci Godfrey is a Mind Detox practitioner and trainerMaster Reiki Teacher and Equine Assisted Learning Facilitator. From her base in Mark Cross, East Sussex she helps hundreds of people locally and all over the world overcome their life, emotional and health challenges to fulfil their potential.

To find out more, or find out what up and coming courses are available you can visit Becci’s professional profile here or follow Mind Detox Tunbridge Wells on Facebook.

“I felt so great afterwards!”

I’ve been luck enough to be a co-trainer of the latest global Mind Detox Training course, and squirreled away in the backend of the internet I came across a testimonial from one of the students for a session we did together.

Working with the students, which stretch from the UK to the US all the way to New Zealand, has increased my appreciation and respect for how plastic the mind can be and how quickly healing can take place.

Mind Detox is a fantastic tool to change our relationship to difficult experiences. It opens up a plethora of opportunity as we no longer have to be victims of our thinking and makes light work of difficult situations so we can have a life free of limitation.

We have a range of students on the course, from a fitness instructor that wants to offer a more comprehensive service to his clients to a Reiki Master that wanted a to add to her existing skills, to a mum that’s to make a difference to the kids in her neighbourhood. Each have found the process surprisingly effective and transformational, and so far they are only 2 months in!

Learn it for yourself!

downloadfile.jpegIf learning a technique that helps you to get peace with the past and let go of the blocks that prevent you from moving forwards sounds like something you would like to know more about, then look up the course details for the September course. We are taking bookings now, and each person that signs up receives a complimentary Mind Detox session with me to experience the power of the Mind Detox Method for themselves.

Course details for September 2016 can be found here: http://thecalmacademy.com/minddetoxpractitioner/#aboutminddetox

 

 

The body speaks the mind

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What I love about the mind body connection, is the simplicity of it. When I listen to people speak about what is going on in their body, I often find myself listening to how their body evolved to have survived difficult experiences and the consequences of difficult events.

Suppression of thoughts, feelings and emotions show up as a suppressed immune system. Not wanting to hear things shows up as hearing loss. Heart ache can show up as a heart condition. Not feeling its OK to be your gender can show up as hormone imbalances. It is that simple.

As an experienced practitioner you can often hear just how challenging a person’s life has been by how suppressed their own natural healing mechanisms are. Whenever I hear about how many different treatments people have tried without any results I am well aware that it is necessary to deal with the underlying reason WHY the body is behaving that way, rather than just treat symptoms.

This is known as the field of psychoneuroimmunology or or psychoneuroendocrinoimmunology – where the the fields of psychology, neuroscience, immunology, physiology, genetics and endocrinology are combined.

For me, this integrates the concept of Holistic Medicine – looking at the overlap of various components that have an influence and impact on health. Working alongside other professionals, I can be the Mind expert and look at the psychological issues behind a condition and help you to take steps to find a way to return to peace.

Food, herbs, psychotherapy, drug treatments and other things can play a part in this too. The experiences of love and nature not got from a distant mother can be replaced by a kind neighbour or a warm and loving therapist. Experiencing excessive physical stress can be offset by a relaxing Reiki session or a massage. Dialysis can be a replacement for your own undeveloped ability (present or inherited), to separate the good from the bad and keep balance. All of these things are love in different forms.

And what about the soul? Well, my experience is that we have a soul and a soul journey – like it or not! Accepting and embracing who we are at our deepest essence and what we have brought ourselves here to accomplish is a huge part of our personal growth and learning. When you are able to be a peace with this core part of ourselves and the deep life choices we have made for ourselves, you have understood the soul journey and transcended your limited mind and entered the real of be-ing.

Because, at the end of the day, that is what we are – souls that have a body and a body that has a mind – and a journey, purpose or mission, should we choose to accept it…