Imagination is an interesting thing

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Imagination is an interesting thing. Part of the creative process, imagination is the part that allows us to play out many realities to see which one we would like best before we employ logic to help us to put that imagination into being.

Imagination is also a double edged sword. We can use imagination to create the things we want and we can be used by our imagination to create the things we don’t want

Take the desire to have a cup of coffee. Imagination helps us to creatively ascertain how we could secure that cup of coffee and give our brain a set of instructions to carry out in order to effectualise that desire. If we are thwarted in our attempts, then imagination helps us to creatively problem solve and find a solution another way.

However, our unconscious mind is also full of a load of frozen and stuck memories that we unconsciously play out in our imagination every day.

The body cannot tell the difference between a real and imagined event and the biochemistry produced for both is the same. This is evidenced by athletes who use visualisation as a large part of their training regime because research shows it delivers 16% performance increase without lifting a muscle.

This means anxiety, physical health conditions, poor performance at work, tiredness and money issues could all be as a result of our imagination. A clearing technique such as Mind Detox can be useful to help clear out these old scripts and replace them with new, more positive ones that serve us and our experiences better.

There is one huge advantage of imagination. When used well, imagination can give us the biochemistry we simply couldn’t manifest from the real world. By this I mean a hug from a loved one that is no longer physically present, the feeling of abundance when money is tight, the feeling of being loved when you are alone, courage when your circumstances make you feel scared and joy when your world is falling apart around you. Sure, they are no substitute for the real thing, but when the real thing isn’t present you still deserve to have the experience.

And of course, as the film and book ‘The Secret’ often says, “Thoughts become things” – which means that whilst you may not get the abundance or love from the source that you miss – a new form of that energy will arise in your outer world, bringing to you what you desire and helping you to feel complete.

What is nurture?

Yesterday I saw a client that was experiencing difficulty connecting to life and even more difficulty connecting to themselves. I immediately realised their challenge came from a lack of nurture. As we spoke it became clear that nurture was not an experience that was in their repertoire, so we set about to explore the concept a little and this is what we came up with.

Nurture is a vibration, just like happiness, sadness, kindness and gratitude are vibrations. Nurture as a vibration comes at a pretty slow oscillation, it is a strong foundation vibration on which other vibrations can be built.

Nurture we decided, is ideally experienced from conception, because whatever vibrations our parents experience we are exposed to also. However, if this hasn’t been the case it is something that can be learnt retrospectively through observing and mimicking others, and through reading about it and consciously experiencing being nurtured by another.

Nurture can be in many forms; the right amount of good quality food and water, being part of a group/family/community, constructive physical touch like cuddles, a safe place to sleep, rest when needed, freedom, the chance to explore, constructive boundaries, being listened to, acknowledgement, respect, being given the appropriate level of responsibility and perhaps most importantly a safe space to be without judgement or criticism. The more of these elements you experience the more rounded your experience of nurture will be.

We also decided that nurture works best when we feel the vibration first and take action second, otherwise it becomes a hollow experience. We felt that feeling the vibration didn’t always have to result in immediate action, but invariably we would create in our outer world what we experience in our inner world.

We concluded by agreeing that nurture was essential to our wellbeing and balance and that to go without it for a long period of time would probably result in a very challenging life.

I thought all this to be fascinating and a very thought provoking discussion. I know now that I will be a lot more aware of what nurture is and do it more consciously as well as make sure I share these notes with others.

What have your experiences of nurture been? Have we missed anything?

I am enough

One of the common beliefs I work with when Mind Detoxing is the belief “I’m not (good) enough”. This is when at some point in our life we have decided that we did not get what we wanted because we must have been lacking in some way.

If this is one of your beliefs, I invite you to ask yourself “If I was enough, what would that give me?” For me it is a feeling of unconditional love, which feels lovely, freeing and very warming. Now sit and fully immerse yourself in that feeling and allow it to filter through your entire body.

This is what you are missing out on when you hold the belief you are not enough.

What would life be like if you were constantly “enough”? What would you make happen? I bet it would be amazing.

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This is what the Mind Detox Method does. It gets rid of the justifications for your false belief (which only feels true, but is actually the opposite of the truth) and replaces it with the truth – in this case things that support the knowing you are enough so you might fulfil your potential.

What could you accomplish if you knew you were enough?

March dates and a special offer!!

Hello spring!

I don’t want to speak too soon, but hello spring!! I’m loving all the signs that new life is on its way!

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Some early daffodils indicating spring is on its way!

Anyone that knows me well, knows I adore nature. My degree at University (before I retrained to do healing work) was in Environmental Biology and I spent 6 years from 2003 onwards working as a Farm Conservation Adviser.

The rationale behind any conservation work is that to look after the environment is to look after ourselves (a lot like healing work really) and back in 2005 the ability to hear birdsong was one of the government’s indicators of a healthy environment for living in.

So it is no surprise that with all the healing work I do, one of the things I am particularly passionate about is time in nature. Even before I retrained I was committed to the idea that therapy sessions would be so much better if they took place in a nature setting rather than a stuffy, clinical and sterile room. This is because simply being out in nature is healing in itself and can often help people to relax.

Birdsong is one of the most divine sounds on earth, soil and plants have a wonderful smell if you stop to notice and the ability to feel the weather – whatever sort – upon your skin is such a gift. And that’s not including beautiful scenery, the good bacteria that live in an outdoor setting (particularly in biodiverse woodland) and the connection to a wide open space – where it is easy to let things go and is a great space for limitless thinking.

I currently live on a farm because I simply can’t imagine living anywhere else and have a threshold of about 1 1/2 days indoors before I go stir crazy and have to be outside for a while. Thankfully, I have three horses to look after, so being stuck indoors is rarely an option for me – but then that’s part of the reason I have them – they make me reconnect to nature a lot!

The seasons

I mention all this because, nature, like us has seasons and its own fluctuations and rhythms. In winter in the UK, the majority of plants and trees draw their energy inwards and conserve their efforts through the more difficult months. One of the reasons I love the first growth of spring so much is the reminder that abundance is on its way and the toughness of winter is over. It’s like being 3 weeks into your fitness regime and realising you’re not in complete agony all the time anymore – you’re beginning to build up some strength and resilience.

Spring also signifies new beginnings. After the contemplation period of winter, spring is a great time to put into effect new behaviours and action plans to create the life you would like to experience in 2015. It is the perfect time to lay the foundations for things like a healthier body, more time for exercise, a cleaner mindset or saying no to the things that no longer serve.

Nature has other cunning behaviours we would also be wise to take notice of. Have you noticed that not all plants shut down in winter? I have a winter flowering jasmine by my back door and holly and ivy flower in late autumn and fruit in winter. This is because nature knows if you can change to adapt your environment, you can thrive where there is less competition.

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Lichen is a master at thriving in adverse conditions

I will never forget on a training exercise in the Peak District a local and very knowledgeable ecologist pointed out a lichen that lived on the rock surface. There was no space for this plant to grow in the soil – competition was too fierce, but on the rock edge it had the whole environment to itself so long as it could live off the tiniest amount of nutrients possible and take its water from the rain.

Adaption is a means to survival. I took a very strong lesson from that small bit of lichen – I don’t have to be like everyone else – I can carve out a path for myself and I can have anything if I put my mind to it.

I love the fact a bit of lichen taught me to be limitless in my thinking and gave me the perspective if I can’t do the obvious, what can I do? When it comes to the no small matter of our lives, focusing on what we can, rather than what we can’t is essential in order to keep ourselves moving. Ultimately, we are in essence like water – always looking for the easiest way to flow downhill.

The Mind Detox connection

What has all this to do with Mind Detox? Well the mind is always looking for the easiest route to survive. In our formative years, when presented with a challenging experience we acted and behaved on what we new, thus laying down a pattern on how similar events would be reacted to later on in life. However, nature has a real sense of humour here, because the first 7 years of our life – when we are making up the framework from which we see all subsequent experiences through, is when we have the least amount of life wisdom and experience to draw our conclusions on.

This means we can come to some very odd conclusions indeed, such as parents divorcing is ‘our fault’, we were ignored because ‘we deserved it’ and that to see the world differently is to be ‘wrong and bad’.

One of the things we do when we do a Mind Detox session, is provide the mind with the easiest possible route to come to a new conclusion. We ask that this new conclusion helps and supports us and brings into account all the wisdom we have acquired in our adult years. This might be things such as:

  • divorce is rarely as a result of the children, but of the two adults involved
  • being ignored isn’t normal and loving behaviour but one of a person unaware of the implications or in immense pain and/or difficulty themselves
  • we are all unique and have our own gifts to bring.

Can you see how the later statements bear much less emotion and as a result would have a neutral or even positive impact on the body? We then install new statements such as these into the body-mind with new emotions such as kindness and compassion and simply overwrite the old unhelpful programming, permanently.

Special offer!!!

To help you spring into spring and make 2015 the year you remember for as the year you took charge of your destiny, I am offering 10% off a block of 3 Mind Detox sessions when booked before 20th March.

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In addition, I am giving away a limited number of free 1hr Initial Consultations (normally £30) where you can discuss your health goals, learn more about Mind Detox and take away a relaxation technique you to start using straight away (available in Mark Cross and via Skype).

Please feel free to share this offer with your friends and family, particularly with anyone you know is struggling right now and ready to make a change but isn’t sure yet how to do it.

Next dates

After a fantastic Ascension meditation course in February, I am extra looking forward to this months meditation groups. As always our full set of Meditation Dates are up on the Mind Detox Tunbridge Wells Facebook event page. Please either sign up there or drop me a reply email to confirm your place. Remember, you are welcome to join us from afar – simply sit down at the same time with the intention to connect to you inner stillness and that will be enough.

  • Tues 3rd Mar, 10.30-11.30am, The Old Farmhouse, Forest Farm, Mark Cross
  • Tues 3rd Mar, 8-9.15pm – The Salt Cave, Vale Road, T Wells
  • Sat 7th Mar, 9.30-4pm Detox Day, The Old Farmhouse, Forest Farm, Mark Cross (see below)
  • Tues 10th Mar, 10.30-11.30am, The Old Farmhouse, Forest Farm, Mark Cross
  • Tues 10th Mar, 8-9.15pm – The Salt Cave, Vale Road, T Wells
  • Tues 17th Mar, 10.30-11.30am, The Old Farmhouse, Forest Farm, Mark Cross
  • Tues 24th Mar, 8-9.15pm – The Salt Cave, Vale Road, T Wells
  • Tues 31st Mar, 10.30-11.30am, The Old Farmhouse, Forest Farm, Mark Cross
  • Tues 31st Mar, 8-9.15pm – The Salt Cave, Vale Road, T Wells

Detox Day

I’m very excited to be co-leading a Detox Day with Nutrition guru Hannah Howard on Saturday this week. Looking at both physical and emotional detoxing, the day promises to be full of helpful information, fun, food and detoxing experiences to inspire you, time in nature and good habits to put into practice. There are a couple of spaces left, so click on the image below to go to the booking page to find out more and book your slot, for what is shaping up to be a brilliant day!

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Click here to book.

And finally…

WP 20150302 004 1 I couldn’t help but share an image my gorgeous cat Daisy hanging out with me this morning as I wrote this. She’s a great example of a lady that knows and asks for what she wants and needs. This morning, it was to be with me, in a sunbeam. What is it for you?

Have a wonderful March!

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Let your dreams go!

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In order to bring towards you what you want, you must let your dreams and desires go so that they may be returned to you in the Universe around you.

Manifestation of your dreams does not take place inside of you – it happens in the space between you and another.

If you are struggling to let something go, it tells you that you are not 100% clear on what you want, you don’t actually want it or you have some attachment to receiving that outcome.

Dreams, goals and desires will only come back to you when you are neutral and hold fertile ground in which they can manifest. Feelings like fear, need, not being enough will keep your dreams with you like a heavy burden, taunting you. You will not be able to let your dreams go till you clear any negative and resistant feelings connected to it by not needing a particular outcome either way and by being perfectly happy with what you have.

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Dreams and desires like to be pleasant surprises for us on top of what we already love. They love an open, abundant and grateful heart and love people that know how to find the beauty in everyday being. Who wouldn’t want to give even more to someone that is already perfectly happy and grateful with what they have? Or someone that is willing to live a life without what they desire? Both of these show a great deal of trust and faith plus deservedness and resilience.

So if you have a goal, dream or desire – write it down. Write how you would like to receive it, by when and who with. Then write down what life would be like with it, how would you feel, how would you act, what would others notice?

Now release that desire out into the Universe and trust.

In the meantime go back to focusing on the now and be grateful for what you have knowing the Universe has got your message. If it is meant to be yours then it will come back when you and it is ready. If it is not, then you won’t mind, because you are already peaceful and in love with what you have.

Receiving your dreams and desires is no better than what you already have – the only difference being true dreams are actually a knowing of what your future holds and therefore have a wonderful feeling of “being on track” and “knowing this is right” when they arrive.

And if you get something else other than your dream, then look for the gift it is giving you. It may be a similar but different type of experience, or the same experience you desired, but with someone else.
Be grateful for what you have – be grateful for the creationary process because to be anything else would be to block life flowing through you.

We are at the end of the day, creationary beings – we literally create the Universe through us.

Mis-takes and why they are your salvation

People often comment that they are surprised at what I am capable of, they could never see themselves able to lead and work with people in the way I do.

The answer is simple, I have tried many times and I have made many mis-takes; many many many mis-takes.

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Thankfully I grew up in an environment where it was ok to make mis-takes. In this environment I was forgiven and, in time, allowed to try again. Each time I made an error I learnt to take responsibility for that error, given the opportunity to put it right, rewarded with a blank slate and given the opportunity to try a different way. Sometimes tho went on endlessly for weeks, months, even years.

What environment was this? It was an environment with horses.

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Donut – a very significant “teacher” in my life.

Horses, like so many animals, are incredible when it comes to sharing with us the forgiveness that comes with unconditional love.

There was many a time in my younger years when I lost my temper, blamed everyone else and missed the beauty of the moment directly in front of me. Horses gently showed me this strategy was unsuccessful and encouraged me to take responsibility for my feelings, actions and thus the outcomes I created. They showed me that instead, with patience and concentrated effort I did not need to control the world around me to feel or be successful, that purely by being here and in this moment I already was. They showed me that when I showed up and was fully present and in this moment they could be too and together we shone.

Because my horses taught me this, and because it has so much value I aim to bring this approach into my sessions. I’ll be honest, I’m not quite as good at it as my horses are, but I hope that in time I will be. And for those that need a first hand experience, you can always ask to get it ‘straight from the horses mouth’ so to speak and have a session with my equine team.

You can find out more about it here: www.horsesenseuk.com/courses/individual.aspx

The Universe Provides

Last night I found out that the two potholes my car hit had resulted in a flat tyre. Awh, shucks you think! I got to the garage this morning, and actually, they suggest I get two new tyres – both front ones had had it. Boo.

But no! I really have to be very grateful for this! Firstly, the tyres were old – I knew that they were close to the limit of road legality – I just hadn’t taken action on it yet and was going to get them done at its service in April. But hey, what a perfect time to have to replace a tyre! I now have two shiney new tyres at the time of year when you need good tyres the most – good thinking Universe.

Secondly, I haven’t had to pay silly main dealer prices. Instead I could go to my trusty local car tyre place and got exceptional service as always and now I know it’ll be MOT ready in April so that’s one less thing to have to think about before then.

And thirdly, they drive loads better – a nicer experience all round brought forwards a bit earlier than I was planning. Great!

The best bit about it is, I got a new piece of work come in last night that will more than cover today’s investment. And it is an investment. Driving my car around is important to me! a) I like doing it, and b) it gets me to places I want to go like sessions with clients, training experiences and the meditation group – which are fun things that I enjoy.

POsitivity Creates

There is opportunity in every challenge if you look for it. Focusing on the opportunity feels far better than focusing on the challenge. I believe we all have the resources we need to overcome any challenges that come our way, whether that’s our health, our state of mind or our performance at work.

Watch out for the nay-sayers that don’t feel this way and maybe choose to keep a wide berth. This world, a happy, peaceful, abundant and resourceful world is built on positivity, not negativity or resistance.