I have seen and experienced first hand the devastation of a mind in overdrive, that runs from morning to night.
A busy mind harms our health, ruins our relationships, tears apart families, zaps our attention, causes us to make mistakes and erodes our personal wealth (and our financial wealth).
I see little benefit of a mind that never rests.
A mind that never rests is running us, and not the other way around.
We are being Thunk as my coach puts it.
Just today I was reminded of the harmful impact a busy mind has on our ability to be present, and to experience the life in front of us.
I witnessed two people that love each other dearly experience deep separation and abandonment, some of the most painful experiences that can be had. Neither had separated or abandoned each other, they had simply separated from and abandoned being present. The pain was not due to the other, but what they had done to themselves.
And if I am truthful, they hadn’t the faintest clue they were doing it. (No judgement here, I have been and still go there too).
What drove them to behave this way?
A mind that controlled them, rather than the other way around.
When we are lost in our head, we start to have a running commentary of our life deciding whether what is happening is good or bad, should or shouldn’t be happening or what it all means. Thus we don’t see the simple sequence of events in front of us, but instead a deeply distorted perception of reality.
Through the filters of our unresolved historic experiences, our wounds and inaccurate beliefs are played out over and over again.
A simple life event can become too much to bear for those with an overactive imagination.
The first step to taking back our power is to realise, we have a mind. To become aware of the mind and our thoughts is to put space between us and our thinking. In doing so, we become the observer of the mind.
With Mind Calm Meditation, we don’t stop there. Once we are aware of the mind, we start to become aware of the silence that our thinking happens in. Over time, we practice becoming more interested in that silence than our thinking. This helps to lessen the mind’s habitual pattern of continuous thinking and increases the pauses between the thoughts. These pauses are deeply restful to the body. Pauses are where magic and miracles happen. It is where we heal, connect deeply to others, experience peace, harmony and wellbeing and become a beacon of inspiration to others.
We still have a mind we can use when we need, and we put it down again when it has done its job. In doing so, we return to a full experience of the present moment.
To get to this stage takes practice, which is why we call it ‘meditation practice’. In meditation we are practicing to become more aware, irrespective of what is going on in our life. In fact our life becomes the training ground of our practice.
As today’s client said, they have tried the overthinking approach and it hadn’t worked, it was time to try something else.
And today reminded me, just how important it was that I shared it is possible.
Becci Godfrey is a Mind Detox practitioner, Meditation Teacher, Reiki Master and Teacher and Equine Assisted Learning Facilitator. From her base in Mark Cross, East Sussex she helps hundreds of people locally and all over the world overcome their life, emotional and health challenges to fulfil their potential through one to one and group sessions (also available through Skype).