I was doing some work with a client today and it seemed very clear that it was important I shared my work notes with them, so they might have something to think about and play with before we met again.
Mark is a 24 year old musician, who’s spent the last 6 years with varying degrees of Chronic Fatigue, food intolerance’s, stomach pains and general energy issues to the point where he’s had to give up living independently and move back in with his mum from time to time or he lost too much weight from not being able to look after himself.
Following looking at what exactly Mark wanted to get from life and his sessions with me, we set about finding the root cause stress of his body shutting down.
ME/CFS in my experience is a “can’t fight, can’t flight, play dead” reaction, when the body experiences more stress than it can handle. If left untreated this will build exponentially with each year the stress is not addressed, so that despite all your best efforts you never get well. This is what was happening to Mark.
Mark was easily able to recall an experience that had been very stressful for him and we set about clarify that stress. We then found the antidote learnings that would enable his to body to allow the memory to still be there, but the emotions previously associated with it to be gone and him feel more neutral now.
Key to the learning experience was that the stress was in the past, everyone and everything had moved forward now and there was no need to hold on to it any longer – it had served it’s purpose and was now free to leave.
The advice below compliments the session we had and the knowing that there is as much value in removing the stress as in making lifestyle changes that will support and the newfound state of freedom. Take from them what you find to be valuable.
1) I strongly suspect the final straw/crux of your ME is the event you shared today. There may be other small things, other topics we’ve talked about are definitely a contributing factor but you said yourself you had no idea what to do and you were in shock – this is the body shutting down to lessen the pain of death I spoke to you about. Today we were able to tell your body that experience is over and all is well. This will remove a huge volume of stress.
2) You may have some interesting conversations with people as a result of today – go with it!
3) You naturally care and are compassionate to others. This is a wonderful attribute to have. In order for you to make it work for you we must first teach you how to direct that inward so you may heal yourself before you share your surplus with others. Always always you first, which ensures there will be more than enough for everyone else.
4) It is not selfish to look after yourself but indeed a necessity and your responsibility. Get to know yourself very very well. Find out what you like and what you don’t like. Do more of what you like, the rest of the world will take care of itself.
5) Choose your company wisely. As a sensitive, caring person some people will lift you up, others will pull you down. Be prepared for the relationships in your life to change. Trust you will always draw in what you need including the life lessons of who needs to go! Sensitive people have to master this art more than most, so quit comparing yourself to others and work out what works for you. The new you will draw in new people to support you.
6) Body checking isn’t bad – what you are checking for and what you do with that information can be. Checking in with your body on whether someone or something is a good or bad idea is great – symptom searching is not! Remember your thinking comes first and your symptoms arise from that. There can be a time delay, so a thought at 11am could produce symptoms at 12, 3pm or the next day. Let go of any correlation and instead choose for your highest desire – contentment. You don’t have to wait until the circumstances are perfect to feel it, you can choose and work towards it now. So when/if you find yourself body checking ask yourself what would make me content right now? Go with the answer and you’ll be living your life in the same way music comes to you.
7) Finally, give yourself plenty of time. Time to just ‘be’ is hugely under-utilised in modern living which seems determined to destroy us! Aim to spend as much time ‘being’ as you do, ‘doing’ – this is the meaning of balance. Decide what being is to you (it could be appreciating nature, people watching, meditating or doing healing) and make it part of your schedule.
Learn these critical skills now and you will have a strong foundation for any future ventures whether its mega pop star, homeless bum or a parent.
Becci Harvey is a Mind Detox practitioner, Master Reiki Teacher and Equine Assisted Learning Facilitator. From her base in Mark Cross, East Sussex she helps hundreds of people locally and all over the world overcome their life, emotional and health challenges to fulfill their potential.
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