It is impossible to escape the conflict that is being published around the world right now. Ukraine, Palestine, Benghazi, Libya – the news is full of tales of fighting, death and distraught and grieving people.
What could fuel such destructive behaviour, and are we immune from this in the UK?
When I hear about conflict around the world like this, especially when there seems to be so much of it, it reminds me of my responsibility and the part that I play.
Each of us is responsible for our own behaviour, but also for the behaviour that we allow to happen around us. If I am caught in the middle of conflict, I have the capacity to choose how I respond and what I create from this moment forwards.
It is my experience that few people appreciate how powerful and influential they are, instead choosing to play small and denounce their powers. Any powerful leader will know that they can enthuse and inspire their followers, just as any mother knows that she can be a calming and soothing influence to her distraught child.
We have the power to shape the way our world is created – in fact it is the cornerstone our existence is built on. If you want more health, affluence, connectedness, purpose you have the capacity to create those things. It your job, and your job alone to create the life you wish to live, in alignment with your values and desires.
Similarly, if you are experiencing conflict in your world, there are steps you can take to create a different outcome. You have the capacity to change the recipe that created the conflict. Like for example changing sugar for salt, cream of chilli powder or vegetables for fruit in a food recipe. These changes will produce different outcomes, just as different behaviours by the people involved produce different outcomes.
It requires much courage and faith to make those changes and I always have a lot of respect for those that do. Finding the right mentors, role models, coaches, teachers, support network and cheerleaders is essential in helping you let go of old behaviours and take on new more supportive ones. It is like letting go of the side of the pool for the first time and swimming – you don’t know whether it will work till you do it. Till you do it, you will never grow.
So the task that lies ahead for these conflict-torn places is to find a new way of being and to find a new way to behave. These areas must want peace more than anything else.
Our job here in the UK is to be the coaches, role models, mentors, cheerleaders, the support network – the people that call these conflict areas to a higher standard. We must share what we have learnt about respect and compassion for one another being more important than being right or having material wealth or power. We must role model how we must love and accept the values and needs of others – that we are in this together and our success and survival depends on us working together rather than tearing one another apart.
I understand that in each of this areas of conflict there is a misguided attempt to love, be it a love of their own people, a love of money or a love of security. Most people, when pushed, believe their actions to be taking them closer to love. Our job is to help them take that step closer to love in a healthy and balanced way.
For me, the more we let go of the mind and rest in being, the more health, balance and prosperity we will experience.
The nature of the mind is to be that little voice in our head that tells us we’re not good enough, we are at risk, we must earn more, we must more powerful, we must, we must, we must – the mind can be endless with its chatter and its demands.
However, the voice of your mind is not who you are.
Yes, we have a mind, but that voice in our head is not ‘us’.
Beyond the mind, we exist as pure potential. Beyond that incessant chatter is being and consciousness. Here, everything is good enough just as it is, you are safe, you are abundant and powerful. Here you act from pure love. You are caring and compassionate towards others, you see yourself and others connected as one and you understand your actions are like a ripple in the ocean.
The potential to explore this space exists for all of us. Practices such as meditation, Reiki, enjoying a beautiful sunset and soaking up the joy and innocence of children gives us a glimpse into this world, that with practice can become our daily experience.
We have a choice how we behave and the change we seek starts with us.
I send much love, hope and courage to those areas that are experiencing conflict. I wish to share with them the peace, joy and quiet that is in my heart. I hope I act as a good role model and I hope in time they will choose it for themselves too.